EXPRESS YOURSELF! Why it’s so important to be the unique expression you were meant to be. Even if it’s a little scary or takes more time and energy to say what you want vs just “going with the flow”, it’s worth it!
It's amazing how during this time of year filled with people, parties, cheer and celebrations, we can often feel more alone than ever. In fact, it's not unusual to numbly bulldoze our way through the holidays (and most of the other 11 months) with a forced smile, acting like we are fine, fine, fine.
However, underneath it all we feel overwhelmed (and guilty about feeling overwhelmed) spending our energy trying to feel the way we think we are supposed to feel, saying the things we think people want to hear, doing things we think people want us to do and then judging ourselves for doing it all wrong.
It's exhausting and painful.
It's heavy and lonely.
Live with an open heart! Right now, more than ever, we need a world living with open hearts. Watch and learn about 3 key elements: Healthy Boundaries, Surrendering, and Leading with Love!
Or more aptly titled, Learning to Sit with Discomfort So We Can Finally Let it Go.
Do you remember playing hot potato when you were a kid? You'd be in a group and whenever you thought the thing might be coming your way, you got ready. You tensed up. You narrowed your focus. You zoned completely in on the thing. You stayed on high alert. Whenever the thing came your way, you did everything in your power to get rid of it as fast as possible. Because if you were too slow and got stuck holding the thing when the music stopped, you were OUT and nobody wants to be out.
Thanks to a interview I watched with Glennon Doyle Milton recently, I realized this is exactly how most of us learn to handle uncomfortable feelings, pain, discomfort and difficult situations in our culture. We spend a boatload of time and energy anticipating the thing coming, all rigid and suited up in our armor. We constantly live in fear of it getting too close and when it actually does, we bear down and then toss it away from us as quickly as humanly possible.
What would you do if you only had one year to live?
Someone asked me that question the other day and it stunned me. Me! The life enthusiast, activist, celebrator, joy-pusher, traveler, the one who cries from happiness. I have a bucket list a mile long, but I couldn't answer the question. One year. That kind of urgency changes things.
I need your help. It's time for a change. I'm not talking about political change (although that is sorely needed in this country as well). However, today I'm talking about RECEIVING.
I want to start a Receiving Revolution!
I've become acutely aware of a major disconnect in our society, especially amongst us helpers, healers, teachers and givers. It's practically an epidemic. I'm talking about the delusional martyrdom so many of us exhibit when refusing to receive something that is offered to us that we actually want. I'm talking about starting a much needed revolution for all of us to relearn the gracious art of receiving (compliments, acknowledgements, kindness, affection, attention, guidance, tangible gifts) without habitually refusing, rejecting, deflecting or disagreeing with the one offering.
Has anyone ever mentioned these to you? Or might you be a self-proclaimed control junkie? Most people I know (present company included) have a tendency towards control. We want to know what we're getting into. We want to know how it will all turn out. Unless it's a birthday, surprises aren't considered a good thing in this world. If you want to be successful, you must keep it all together and look good doing it, right? Successful people have goals, plans and foreseeable outcomes. They take responsibility for everyone and everything. We are only worthy if we are proving our worth. It's not OK to be different or do it differently. Only crazy or lazy people let go of the reins and let things fly. Right? I don't think so
Happy belated Independence Day! Just because the 4th has come and gone doesn't mean we can stop thinking about freedom. Freedom from what, though? From whom? Some might say that freedom is being able to do whatever you want, whenever you want. Others might say like it’s being able to live however one chooses, without judgement or forced restrictions from others. Some might say freedom is mental; an attitude – having inner peace no matter what the external circumstances are. In some parts of the world it still might mean the simple right to vote. Whatever freedom means to you, I doubt any of it would ever come to fruition without discipline AND compassion. Discipline? Discipline means rules, restrictions and having no fun, right? Sometimes. However, when we incorporate self-compassion with discipline into our lives, we can create practices (that eventually become habits) that are the vehicles to the freedom we desire. Think about it.
I'm done being NICE...
but I will never stop being KIND.
For a long time I didn't know the difference between these two words. Now, one no longer has a place in my life and the other is a standard by which I live.
We MUST cultivate healthy relationships with ourselves because, if you think about it, they really are the most important and longest-lasting relationships we will ever have. Learn WHAT a healthy relationship looks like, WHY it’s so important and HOW to cultivate one. Plus, an extra credit assignment at the end. Peace, Love & Freedom!
Jacque Saltsman is a Healer and Life Coach who is committed to the empowerment and healing of women locally and globally. Jacque has attended and staffed the Woman Within Training Weekend and sits in an amazing E-circle in her hometown of Louisville, Kentucky. She can be found at jacquesaltsman.com.